Imagine a dinner to which you could invite anyone on the planet. Who would be at your table?
Does fame attract you? What kind of fame should it be?
Before you call someone, do you sometimes replay the conversation in your mind? What’s the reason for this?
What would an “ideal” day be like for you from morning to evening?
When was the last time you sang something to yourself? And for someone else—was it a long time ago?
Imagine living to ninety. Sixty of those years, starting at thirty, could be spent with either the clear head of a thirty-year-old or the physical fitness of a thirty-year-old. Which would you prefer?
Do you have a secret hunch about what your death will be like?
Based on your first impressions, how are you and your conversation partner similar? Find three such similarities.
What circumstances in your life are you especially grateful for?
What part of your upbringing would you change if you had the chance?
Tell your interlocutor your biography in 4 minutes and don’t skimp on details.
Tomorrow morning, you may gain any one ability or quality. Which one will you choose?
If a crystal ball could honestly tell you anything—about you, about the future, about anything else—what truth would you want to know?
Is there a long-held dream you haven’t gotten around to yet? Why are you putting it off?
What do you consider your greatest success in life?
What do you think is essential for true friendship?
What moment in the past is especially dear to you?
What episode from the past still resonates with pain?
If you knew for sure that you would suddenly die in twelve months, would you live differently now? Why?
How would you define friendship?
How important are love and tenderness in your life?
Take turns noting each other’s strengths until everyone has named five.
How close-knit and warm was your family? Do you think you grew up happier than many of your peers?
What feelings do you have associated with your mother and your relationship with her?
Each person writes three true sentences beginning with “we.” For example: “Right now, we’re alone in this room, and we feel…”
Continue the sentence: “How I wish I had someone next to me with whom I could share…”
If you’re really trying to become friends, what should your interlocutor know about you from the start?
Tell your interlocutor why you like them. This time, be completely frank and mention things you wouldn’t normally say to someone you barely know.
Think of a time in your life when you felt incredibly awkward and describe it.
When was the last time you cried in someone’s presence? And when was the last time you cried alone?
What’s something you already like about the person across from you? Tell them about it.
Is there anything so serious that you can’t joke about it? What is it?
Imagine your life was cut short tonight, and you couldn’t talk to anyone. What unspoken words would you most regret? What prevented you from saying them sooner?
A fire breaks out in your house, where you’ve collected everything you own. You’ve already evacuated your family and pets, and there’s a safe way to return for one thing. Which one and why?
Which relative’s loss would hurt you the most? Why?
Describe a personal problem to your interlocutor and ask how they would handle it in your position. Also, have them share any emotions they think this problem evokes in you.
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